Domestic violence is not physical
violence alone. Domestic violence is any behavior the aim of which is to
realize power and control over a spouse, partner, girl/boyfriend, intimate
loved one. Abuse may be a learned behavior; it's not caused by anger, mental
problems, drugs or alcohol, or other familiar excuses.
Types of Domestic
Violence
When the general public thinks
about domestic violence, they usually think about physical assault resulting in
visible injuries to the victim. This is only one type of abuse. There are many
categories of abusive behavior; each has its own consequences. Lethality involved physical abuse may place the victim at higher risk. Still,
the long term destruction of personhood that accompanies the other forms of
violence is significant and cannot be minimized.
1. Physical violence
The use of physical force against
another. Examples include hitting, shoving, grabbing, biting, restraining,
shaking, choking, burning, forcing the utilization of drug/alcohol, and assault with a weapon. Physical violence
may or might not end in an injury that needs medical attention.
2. Sexual violence
The violation of an individual's
bodily integrity (sexual assault), including coercing sexual contact, rape and
prostitution, as well as any unwelcome sexual behavior (sexual harassment),
include treating someone in a sexually demeaning manner or the other conducts of a sexual nature, whether physical, verbal or
non-verbal. Sexual abuse also includes behavior, limiting reproductive rights,
such as preventing the use of contractive methods and forcing abortion.
3. Economic abuse
Making or attempting to make the
victim financially dependent on the abuser. Examples of this include preventing
or forbidding an intimate partner from working or gaining an education,
controlling the financial resources, and withholding access to economic
resources.
4. Psychological
abuse
Intimidation, threats of harm,
and isolation. Examples include instilling fear in an intimate partner through
threatening behavior, damaging property or abusing pets, constant supervision,
or controlling what the victim does and who they ask.
5.
Emotional abuse
Undermining an individual's sense
of self-worth. Examples of emotional abuse include constant criticism,
name-calling, embarrassing, mocking, and humiliating.
What
causes domestic violence?
Domestic violence may be a choice, and it's a learned behavior. For these reasons, it is difficult to say
that any single factor causes domestic violence. However, subsequent beliefs and
attitudes are common for abusers:
• Sense of entitlement
• A feeling that they should have power and control over
their partner
• Belief that they can get away with it
• Learned experience that being abusive gets them what they need
• Belief that their lives should take priority
Risk Factors for Domestic Violence
While it may not be possible to predict every
person, potential victims or abusers. Some risk factors increase the chances of
being affected. It may surprise you that the risk factors associated
with potential victims and potential abusers are similar. This is because,
without help, many victims become abusers or are re-victimized later in
life.
Common
Risk Factors Related to Domestic Violence Include:
•Low self-esteem:
There
seems to be a link between low self-esteem and the risk of being both a victim
and an abuser in domestic violence cases. Victims often believe no one wants
them or that they don't deserve to be loved. Therefore, they are more likely to
try to endure abuse in hopes the abuser will change. Abusers, on the other
hand, often attempt to mask their low self-esteem by degrading others. While it
doesn't make sense to people who are not affected, it makes perfect sense in
the mind of both the abuser and the victim.
•Desire for power or control:
Domestic
violence often occurs in relationships where one person has a desire to
control another. The abuser may try to control the victim's social life,
travel, and money.
•Low academic achievement:
Individuals
who have poor academic performance often battle with self-esteem issues.
Potential abusers often display aggressive behavior as a way of
"distracting" others from what they view as a personal lack of
achievement. On the other hand, victims may feel trapped because they think
they are unable to provide for themselves of their children. Therefore, they
may stay in an abusive relationship as a means of financial support.
•Previous history of being an
abuse victim:
Unfortunately,
without intervention, the cycle of abuse is often difficult to break.
Previous victims of domestic violence often tend to either be
re-victimized or become abusers themselves. Victims of domestic violence
often believe they "deserve" the abuse. This mindset leads them
to be less likely to stand up for themselves. Victims who become abusers,
on the other hand, often do so because they feel so much anger and frustration
related to the experience of being a victim.
•Cultural beliefs/traditional viewpoints:
It
may seem odd to think that culture or traditions lend to the risk of domestic
violence, but many cultures have deep-rooted beliefs that men are superior to
women. In some instances, those men may resort to domestic violence to control
their spouse or children. Cultural traditions do not trump laws designed to
protect victims.
•Mental illness:
Individuals
who have been diagnosed with a mental illness, such as bipolar disorder
or schizophrenia, may go through times of highs and lows when they are
unable to control their anger. These people may become aggressors and
abuse others. This is especially true if they are not following a
medication regimen. Some people who experience depression or other mood
disorders are often more likely to be victimized.
•Substance abuse:
People
who abuse drugs or alcohol may fall victim to someone abusive. Victim's
need for acceptance or money to support their habit may cause them to be
vulnerable to domestic abuse.
Domestic
Violence Cases across India
Everyone has heard of someone amongst their
families, friends, or acquaintances who have suffered domestic violence,
i.e., some kind of verbal, physical, sexual, or economic abuse.
There are also plenty of statistics substantiating
these unfortunate realities.
•1 in 3 women worldwide experience physical or
sexual abuse from their intimate partners or non-partners (WHO 2017). In India, the definition of
a 'domestic relationship' includes a woman's relationship with her husband or
live-in partner and with his relatives.
•As per the National
Family Health Survey IV conducted in 2015–2016, 31.1% of married
women aged 15-49 years experienced spousal violence at least once in
their lives.
•The National
Crime Records Bureau reports that, "Majority of cases under the
category of 'crimes against women' as recognized by the Indian Penal
Code was registered under 'Cruelty by Husband or His Relatives' (31.9%)."
These statistics show how prevalent private violence is and how grave
and urgent an issue is, requiring our collective attention as a society.
Is domestic violence the next pandemic in India?
The National
Commission for Women (NCW), which receives domestic violence
complaints from across the country have recorded a more than two-fold the
rise in gender-based violence in the national Coronavirus lockdown period. The total complaints from women rose
from 116 within the first week of March (March 2-8), to 257 within the
final week (March 23-April 1).
Domestic
violence instances have doubled than what it had been before the
lockdown. The cases of violence are high in Uttar Pradesh, Bihar, Haryana,
and Punjab," says NCW chief Rekha
Sharma. She says the main reason for the rise of domestic violence
is that the men are at home, and they are taking out their frustration
on women, and they refuse to participate in domestic work. Women are
also confined within the four walls of the house, and they cannot share
their grief with anybody.
The victims are also scared of complaining to the
police because they fear that harassment will increase. Sharma says, "Most of the complaints
are coming via email. My team is working 24/7, and we are shifting the
victims to hostels or helping them reach their parents' homes." Job
loss, salary cuts, an uncertain future arising out of the lockdown has everyone
jittery. "I see my self-esteem being crushed every day," says Sunanda Desai, a working woman
from an upper-middle-class family in Mumbai. "I am questioned every
single day for things not been done well. There is stress at my
workplace and reception. I am shouted at by my husband, my in-laws, and even
my children. There are fights and violence in the house that I have never
experienced before in my ten years of marriage," she says.
Invisible
Scars, an NGO working to help domestic violence victims have also
seen a spurt in complaints. In cases of physical domestic violence,
depending upon the severity of the abuse, they guide the victims on registering
a complaint with the police. Its founder
Ekta Vivek Verma says they encourage victims to talk to someone if
they're hesitant to approach the police. This is done after
understanding the small print of the abuse, both past, and present.
"Since the victim most likely lives with the
abuser and is stuck with him 24/7 at this point, and we have to be very
careful. For one among our victims, we suggested asking her to urge a
written undertaking from her husband and in-laws that they won't isolate
her from her family and cannot beat
her," she says. Coronavirus has exposed us to our dependence
on house help. Most families don't have live-in help, and with the lockdown,
part-timers are unavailable. Says Varkha
Chulani, clinical psychologist and psychotherapist at Mumbai's Lilavati
Hospital: "Not used to getting their hands dirty, many men are
struggling to cope. They feel they are being bossed around, to do the dishes,
wash their clothes. Their ego is getting bruised as men are unable to stand
being told to help. Stereotypical
ideologies exist - it's the woman's job to cook, clean, wash. It's the
man's job to earn. Even though we seem to have progressed in paying lip service
to be 'liberal,' the actual test is in the living. And this confinement is
throwing up the 'real' mindsets of partners."
The violence of domestic abuse is worse within the
weaker section of the society. Psychologist
Padma Rewari says her domestic help has an abusive, alcoholic
husband. Now going without alcohol and cooped up during a small room, he
possesses more violence. For victims like her, there are NGOs like Stree Mukti Sanghatan for help. "The women
should approach free counseling and use the web facility for reporting
the crime," says Rewari.
"The victims of physical abuse may find it
helpful to possess a security plan just in case the violence escalates.
This includes having a neighbor, friend, or relative or shelter
identified to travel within the event they have to go away the house
immediately for safety," she adds. As the lockdown and limited
movement outside the house appears to be an extended drawn affair, the
most straightforward recourse for victims of physical abuse is to report
the crime and seek help.
Laws in India against domestic violence
Domestic violence at home is, unfortunately, the
reality of Indian society, a cliché. In the Indian Patriarchal setup, it
turned into a satisfactory practice to mishandle women. There might be
numerous explanations behind the event of domestic violence. Hence India
has various legislations for the same. There are three laws in place in
India that deal directly with domestic violence:
1. The section 498A of the Indian Penal Code
2. The Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961
3. The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence
Act, 2005
1.Section
498A of the Indian Penal Code
Indian Penal Code, 1860, is the most critical
substantive criminal law to impose certain amendments in it concerning
cruelties against women fundamentally married women. Section 498 A deals with certain things in terms of cruelty which
read as:
•Any wilful conduct which is likely to drive the
woman to commit suicide or to cause grave injury or danger to life, limb
or health of the woman;
•Harassment of the women with a view of coercing her
or any a person related to her to meet any unlawful demand for any
property or any valuable security or is on account of her failure by her
or any person related to her to meet any demands
Meaning of Section
According to this section, married women can file
the case against her husband or her in-laws when she suffers cruelty at
their hands. Hence it is essential to understand the meaning of cruelty
for this section. In the case of 'Inder
Raj Malik vs. Sunita Malik,' it was held that the word 'cruelty' is
defined in the explanation which among other things says that harassment
of a woman to coerce her or any related persons to meet any unlawful
demand for any property or any valuable security is cruelty. Kinds of
cruelty covered under this section include the following:
• Cruelty by vexatious litigation
• Cruelty by deprivation and wasteful habits
• Cruelty by persistent demand
• Cruelty by extra-marital relations
• Harassment for non-dowry demand
• Cruelty by non-acceptance of baby girl
• Cruelty by false attacks on chastity
• Taking away children
The cruelty under this section would include such a
grave act of cruelty, which puts the women under such danger, and it is
such grave that might lead to committing suicide. It is also important
to note that it was held in 'Kaliyaperumal
vs. State of Tamil Nadu that cruelty is a common essential in offenses
under both the sections 304B and 498A of
IPC.
Discussion
of section 304 shall be made
in the further section of the notes. Also, S.498A
IPC does not only deal with dowry deaths but also any wilful conduct
on the part of the husband, which causes harm to the wife's 'life, limb
or health (whether mental or physical).' To prove that cruelty was
caused under Explanation a) of S.498A
IPC, it is not essential to show or put forth that the woman was beaten up-abusing
her verbally, denying her conjugal rights, not speaking to her would fall into the
ambit of mental cruelty. Showing any mercy to abusers or giving them the
'benefit of the doubt' when some proofs to torture at their hands are present
is entirely wrong.
2. The Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961
The provision of the Dowry Prohibition Act mainly
deals with issues relating to Dowry and its related offenses in general. Dowry
means the transfer of parental property at the time of marriage of their
daughter. It is a system of providing a certain amount of financial assistance
to the groom's family in the form of money, property, gold, etc.
The Social evil of Dowry was spread to a large
extent so far abolishing the act of providing and accepting Dowry, which
leads to various financial crises too many families in India. The Government
formulated the Dowry Prohibition
Act in the year 1961 so that there will be an eye of law in regulating
such actions involving delivery and acceptance dowry. The act provides
various provisions relating to the term 'dowry' and regulations relating
to the punishment for the offense of Dowry and the concerned officers. They
are entitled to the authority to look into such matters. The act also provides
certain powers to make rules and regulations regarding giving and accepting
Dowry. But the fact is that almost all the marriages are taking place in
the absolute assurance given by the family of both the spouses, mainly the
bride.
The original content of the Dowry Prohibition Act
was broadly decided to be ineffectual in controlling the activity of
Dowry. Different types of violence against women kept on being connected to an
inability to fulfill dowry needs. Therefore, the enactment experienced a
subsequent amendment.
In
1984, it was changed to specify that presents given to a bride or a groom at
the time of a wedding are allowed. However, the law required that a list be
maintained describing each gift, its value, the identity of the person giving
it, and the person's relation to either party to the marriage. The act and
relevant sections of the Indian Penal Code were further amended to protect
female victims of dowry-related violence. Another layer of legal protection was provided in 2005 under the Protection of
Women from Domestic Violence Act. Amendments made to the first Dowry
Prohibition Act likewise established the least and most punishments
forgiving and accepting Dowry and made a punishment for requesting Dowry
or publicizing offers of money or property regarding a marriage. The Indian Penal Code has likewise modified
in 1983 established specific crimes of dowry-related cruelty, dowry
death, and abetment of suicide. These enactments punished violence
against women by their husbands or their relatives when proof of dowry
demands or dowry harassment could be shown.
3. The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act,
2005
The Protection
of Women from Domestic Violence Act (or the Domestic Violence Act) is
excellent legislation enacted in 2005 to tackle this problem. The
actin theory goes a long way towards the protection of women in the
domestic setup. The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005
is a parliamentary act enacted to protect the women from domestic
violence, which came into force by 26
October 2006. This act provides for the first time definition of
'domestic violence,' making the purview of violence broad by including
physical and emotional, verbal, sexual, and economic abuse. This is a civil
law for protection orders and not meant to be applied criminally. The Domestic Violence Act is an act that
provides for more effective protection of the rights of women guaranteed
under the constitution who are victims of any sort of violence within
the family and matters connected in addition to that or incidental to
that.
Definition of
domestic violence is provided under section 3 of the act as
"any act, omission or commission or conduct of the respondent shall
constitute domestic violence in case it:
•Harms or injures or endangers the health, safety,
life, limb or well-being, whether mental or physical, of the aggrieved
person or tends to do so and includes causing physical abuse, sexual
abuse, verbal and emotional abuse, and economic abuse;
•Harasses, harms, injures or endangers the aggrieved
person to coerce her or any other person related to her to meet any
unlawful demand for any dowry or other property or valuable security;
•Has the effect of threatening the aggrieved person
or any a person related to her by any conduct mentioned in clause (a) or
clause (b); or
•Otherwise injures or causes harm, whether physical
or mental to the aggrieved person."
For the explanation of the act, 'the Act' also
defines "physical abuse," "sexual abuse,"
"verbal and emotional abuse," and "economic abuse."
In a country like India, wherein due to the patriarchal setup abusing
women became an acceptable norm. The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence
Act became consequently commendable legislation. It contemplates and acknowledges
wider varieties of violence towards women. Before this act, all different
domestic violence situations inside the family had to be dealt with under
the offenses that the individual acts of violence constituted below the IPC,
besides any regard to the gender of the victim. This posed trouble where
the victims befell to be youth or ladies who had been dependent on the assailant.
Help a Victim of Domestic Violence
• Make Time for Them
• Start a Conversation
• Listen without Judgment
• Learn the Warning Signs
• Believe the Victim
• Validate the Victim's Feelings
Some victims may not realize that their situation is abnormal because they have no other models for relationships and have gradually become accustomed to the cycle of violence. Tell the victim that violence and abuse aren't part of healthy relationships. Without judging, confirm to them that their situation is dangerous, and you are concerned for their safety.
-----Nivethi Natarajan